Remembering the attorney and the Idaho Mormons, I added as an afterthought that that I did not want my daughter to go a family with a non-mainstream religion like Mormons, Jehovah’s Witnesses, or Seventh Day Adventists. However, if it was necessary to give my baby a good home, a Jewish or Catholic family was okay. I preferred either a non religious family or a liberal Protestant one. I had been raised in a liberal Protestant church but I was not religious. Idaho and Mormons did not appeal to me and I sent the attorney away.Īfter I signed the surrender paper at the San Francisco County Social Services Department which served as the adoption agency, the social worker asked me about religious preference, telling me that, while they could not guarantee any religion, my preference would be respected. The attorney placed babies with Mormon families and knew a Mormon family in Idaho that wanted a baby girl. While I was in the hospital after Megan was born, an attorney who had been referred by a doctor I had seen who handled private adoptions came to my bedside. By making this promise, I was able to rationalize abandoning my newborn daughter. I knew that records would be closed but I figured I would go to law school, learn how to beat the system, and find her when she turned 18. I finally signed the paper but I told myself our separation would be for only 18 years. Giving my baby to strangers was wrong but when I tried to visual how to keep my baby, I stared into a blank wall. She was placed in a foster home and I struggled for a month about what to do.
I went to San Francisco in September and Megan was born there in November.
I had grown up in Chicago and had gone to Alaska in 1960 to attend college thanks to the generosity of my uncle, my deceased father’s older brother who lived there with his wife. I became pregnant in February, 1966 when I was 23 and living in Fairbanks, Alaska. Unlike Lorraine and Linda, I am a birth mother who can fathom the idea of rejecting our children which I did-before Megan, the daughter I surrendered to adoption, and I connected in 1997.
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